Sad though it is, I have often caught myself comparing myself and my life to others. Sometimes it’s a comparison with everyday people; some days I try to measure my life in terms of Brad and Angelina. Most recently, I found myself comparing my life with a graduate school classmate. She is married to her high school sweetheart and 2 weeks away from graduation and the “real world”. She oozes happiness and love. And I am so so happy for her; she deserves to be happy and is so sweet. Our friendship started out pretty slow; we weren’t instant friends.
As the semesters passed, we've become good friends, which is interesting since we are in completely different stages of life even though we're practically the same age. I couldn't help but think of all the different things that are different about her life and mine.
1. She has a husband; I have... a body pillow? I mean, sure, a body pillow isn't exactly the same thing as a husband (especially since it can't mow the yard), but I like to think that I got the better end of the deal, seeing as my body pillow doesn't snore at night. Sorry, dear, but you lose this first round.
2. She is working hard at starting a family. I work hard to “raise”… my two puppies? Anyway, my point is that she takes care of her family while I take care of small balls of fur that like to play at 3:15 AM.
3. While I’ve never been to her house, I would bet money that she is as organized at home as she is with her school work. Pretty sure she has a clean, if not spotless, house. I have... not a clean house. There's no excuse for this one, people. She has a family to take care of and yet manages to keep her house clean. I, on the other hand, enjoy throwing my discarded clothes across my bedroom because it makes me feel like I'm properly embracing the life of a single girl. So, whatever, she probably wins this round, too.
I could go on and on…. And on and on.
As I was thinking about all these things that we don't have in common, I couldn't help but think about something else, too -- everything we do have in common.
Her need for God in her life didn't lessen when she married; mine doesn't lessen when I'm in a dating relationship, especially when I've chosen to be with Mr. Right Now instead of Mr. Right. Our lives may look very different on the outside, but we've had enough text message conversations by now for me to know that our hearts still search for the same God. There are some things that I believe are simply common to women, whether married or single, mother or barren. There's just something about women looking for their God in the midst of their lives here on earth, no matter what details their lives consist of.
I'm pretty sure He wins this round. And really, that’s all that matters in the end.
1. She has a husband; I have... a body pillow? I mean, sure, a body pillow isn't exactly the same thing as a husband (especially since it can't mow the yard), but I like to think that I got the better end of the deal, seeing as my body pillow doesn't snore at night. Sorry, dear, but you lose this first round.
2. She is working hard at starting a family. I work hard to “raise”… my two puppies? Anyway, my point is that she takes care of her family while I take care of small balls of fur that like to play at 3:15 AM.
3. While I’ve never been to her house, I would bet money that she is as organized at home as she is with her school work. Pretty sure she has a clean, if not spotless, house. I have... not a clean house. There's no excuse for this one, people. She has a family to take care of and yet manages to keep her house clean. I, on the other hand, enjoy throwing my discarded clothes across my bedroom because it makes me feel like I'm properly embracing the life of a single girl. So, whatever, she probably wins this round, too.
I could go on and on…. And on and on.
As I was thinking about all these things that we don't have in common, I couldn't help but think about something else, too -- everything we do have in common.
Her need for God in her life didn't lessen when she married; mine doesn't lessen when I'm in a dating relationship, especially when I've chosen to be with Mr. Right Now instead of Mr. Right. Our lives may look very different on the outside, but we've had enough text message conversations by now for me to know that our hearts still search for the same God. There are some things that I believe are simply common to women, whether married or single, mother or barren. There's just something about women looking for their God in the midst of their lives here on earth, no matter what details their lives consist of.
I'm pretty sure He wins this round. And really, that’s all that matters in the end.
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